On October 25 -- just one week from now! -- I will be participating in the Center for Pastor Theologians conference titled "Beauty, Order, and Mystery: The Christian Vision of Sexuality.” If you can't make the actual event, you can still join us through streaming video. I will be giving talk in a breakout session on "Bent Sexuality and the Pastor," and would love for you to join us through Facebook Live.
Join us for a live-stream on October 25
To watch this event, visit facebook.com/openheartedliving at 2:30pm CST on October 25. We'll be streaming the breakout session, and would love for you to join us!
In this session I will invite church leaders to consider their own story of sexual brokenness as I vulnerably share my own. The time has long since come to reject the contempt culture of shame that has kept many sexually wounded people, both in the pulpit and the pew, in shame, contempt and hiding. The presentation will problematize the oversimplified understanding of sexual sin purveyed by the evangelical church that masks the complexity of human sexuality. Reductionist and quick-fix pastoral prescriptions alongside jocular exhortations about the glory and priority of sex have done significant damage to people already deeply wounded; what is more, such commonplace approaches to the issue of sexuality in evangelical churches have isolated boys and girls and men and women, laity and pastors alike, from the safe place of vulnerability, truth and grief—the only path toward healing. It is time to tear down the illusionary idol of sexuality not outside, but inside the church. In the session, I will describe the way childhood sexual trauma warps adult sexuality. I will plead for the cultivation of church cultures of vulnerability, kindness and patience for those struggling with sin and particularly with sexual bentness.